Mingle Mingle: HOW LONG WILL THE FEELING OF “IN LOVE” LASTS?
So you met this girl online, two of you chat on the screen. Both of you have similar interest and hate. It seemed that you have endless things to share with each other and two of you finally met up in person. She is the perfect woman you are looking for and you are everything she always wanted. Two of you finally married and live happily ever after..... But wait, the story does not ends there. Several months after marriage, things started to change. You, paralyzed by a whole day of work and were half dead when reach home. She, after gone through a full day of housework and taking care of the kids have a lot to brag about. You pay less attention to her, making her think that you would not care and things starting to went even messier....Everything that felt so right is wrong ...Is love between you two gone?
That's just another typical case of red light shed on a relationship.
It is common question that everybody will ask: How long will love last? or in another word, How long will the feeling of "in love" lasts?
Some says 2 years (common) expiry duration of lust), some says 7 years...
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While some says after marriage, one's perception of other half will change and leads to decrease in love...
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If you think physical transformation of your after half is enough to make you feel differently, wait until the kid comes into the picture...
Not to say when the month end bill comes...
That's why after marriage, couples gone through changes in life. When a lot of scene behind the screen of fairy tales comes into the pictures, couples caught unprepared. Things seemed so right and so wonderful suddenly becomes not-so-easy-and-wonderful anymore. And sometimes, people starting to throw their temper onto each other. When one received the temper, they started to throwback and the vicious cycle continues... And if some friend of friend or co-worker (opposite sex) comes into the scene, it will become another typical unfortunate cases of affair...
I always believe love does not have an expiry date but love is like making a bread. You need to put in yeast in order to make more yeast and in the end you may received your reward(bread). Love needs constant input of So when you think the love is gone, try to find the reason to hold on. It may just be the emotion covering your heart.
some say: Naahh those things would not happened to me it only happens in drama. I can only say, sir if your girl is good and you tread her like trash, some days somebody will grab her away. Even your drink at the drive through gets hijacked sometimes..
Say is easier than doing it. But without any saying or guideline how do we actually started? Here is some tips for couples who wants to have some guidance or reference:
3 major needs of Men:
- To be admired/ respected
- A woman's touch on their soul (and of course Body)
- Recreational companionship
3 major needs of Women:
- To be loved(romance)
- To be pampered, understand
- Sense of security (affection from man)
3 common problem between a couple:
- Money
- Sex
- Communication
3 more and 3 less for a couple:
- More care about changes on other half
- More focus on the positive aspect on the other half
- More encouragement to the other half
- Less complain on the other half
- Less focus on the negative aspect on the other half
- Less assume and take-for-granted on the other half
3 common things a couple must strive to achieve:
- Common vision on life
- Common environment and friend
- Common interest and conversation topic
3 phrases that should be said often
- I am wrong and I am sorry
- I understand and I am proud of you
- I love you
To me, if one wants love to lasts, one must put effort into it. Love him/her with your heart before expecting him/her to love you back...
Hopefully all couples can hold their love till the end...
That's just another typical case of red light shed on a relationship.
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Some says it lasted long as a game
While some says after marriage, one's perception of other half will change and leads to decrease in love...
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Men before marriage and after marriage
Woman before marriage and after marriage
If you think physical transformation of your after half is enough to make you feel differently, wait until the kid comes into the picture...
Above: how your kid looks to other people
Below: how your kid looks to you
That's why after marriage, couples gone through changes in life. When a lot of scene behind the screen of fairy tales comes into the pictures, couples caught unprepared. Things seemed so right and so wonderful suddenly becomes not-so-easy-and-wonderful anymore. And sometimes, people starting to throw their temper onto each other. When one received the temper, they started to throwback and the vicious cycle continues... And if some friend of friend or co-worker (opposite sex) comes into the scene, it will become another typical unfortunate cases of affair...
How dad follow mom's car when she going to class reunion
How mom welcome dad home before verified there is no other woman's scent on him
I always believe love does not have an expiry date but love is like making a bread. You need to put in yeast in order to make more yeast and in the end you may received your reward(bread). Love needs constant input of So when you think the love is gone, try to find the reason to hold on. It may just be the emotion covering your heart.
Choosing a correct partner which does not have an expiry date is important though
Be mentally prepared for life challenges, always remember to input love into a love relationship should be the key to long term relationship.some say: Naahh those things would not happened to me it only happens in drama. I can only say, sir if your girl is good and you tread her like trash, some days somebody will grab her away. Even your drink at the drive through gets hijacked sometimes..
Say is easier than doing it. But without any saying or guideline how do we actually started? Here is some tips for couples who wants to have some guidance or reference:
3 major needs of Men:
- To be admired/ respected
- A woman's touch on their soul (and of course Body)
- Recreational companionship
3 major needs of Women:
- To be loved(romance)
- To be pampered, understand
- Sense of security (affection from man)
3 common problem between a couple:
- Money
- Sex
- Communication
3 more and 3 less for a couple:
- More care about changes on other half
- More focus on the positive aspect on the other half
- More encouragement to the other half
- Less complain on the other half
- Less focus on the negative aspect on the other half
- Less assume and take-for-granted on the other half
3 common things a couple must strive to achieve:
- Common vision on life
- Common environment and friend
- Common interest and conversation topic
Current interest and vision... stayed alive
3 phrases that should be said often
- I am wrong and I am sorry
- I understand and I am proud of you
- I love you
To me, if one wants love to lasts, one must put effort into it. Love him/her with your heart before expecting him/her to love you back...
Hopefully all couples can hold their love till the end...
Mingle Mingle: HOW LONG WILL THE FEELING OF “IN LOVE” LASTS?
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Wooaaahh... interesting blogpost..
ReplyDeletethe drink being hijacked is so gross O.o
Explain this: A woman's touch on their soul (and of course Body).....HOW?
ReplyDeletehahaha...ask kenny to demo... :P
ReplyDeleteyeah lor.. I wonder anyone will do this in kuching...
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